Thursday, July 12, 2012

Family Under Stress

When people are under stress they resort back to what is familiar to them.  Knowing that makes me wonder about what I tend to do in stressful situations.  I don't like being stressed and normally I am pretty calm, but if I am ever stressed I tend to keep to myself while anything and everything bothers me.  That is just the way I have always done it and so even though I don't like that everything bothers me it is very hard to break that cycle because that is what is familiar to me.  I still remember when my parents would lecture me and I would just not say anything and everything they said I took as an attack on me. 

Usually when something causes stress to us a big factor can be that we have never experienced that kind of stress before and you're not sure how to handle it which creates the stress.  I know that I have experienced this in my life especially when I don't know anyone (especially someone who I am close with) who has experienced the same thing I have.  I have not seen or learned the appropriate way to react to what happened so I get stressed because I don't know how I am supposed to feel.  Understanding that this is one of the reasons that it stresses me out is a relief because sometimes it just feels good to know that this is normal.

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