Work and Finances

Today we are seeing that men do not work as much as women.  One of the reasons why women might choose to work could be because they get recognition where as, when they are taking care of children and cleaning the house all day they usually don't get any recognition.  Another reason is that at work they get recompense or some sort of reward (money), while when they are at home with the children it is harder to feel like they are getting anything out of it.  Also some might believe that it is a waste to get rid of all the hard work you did to earn your degree so that you just stay at home and be a mom, they are just settling because they are "just a mom".  Other reasons could be that they feel a sense of accomplishment when they go to work or that it is a "break" from being a mom, or even that they aren't progressing because they don't feel like they are learning anything new.  What most people don't realize though is that you will learn more from your children then you learned from our parents or even your education.  Although, having an education and continuing to learn will help you be a better parent.

Men learn and connect best when they work shoulder to shoulder with someone.  Families should be encouraged to work alongside their spouse and children.  Families used to all take part in the work that was done because it was needed.  When you aren't contributing to the family or anything, you will have lower self-esteem and won't feel like part of the group.  When you only bond with family through play, it isn't nearly as helpful as the bond you get when you work together because when you are playing it is competitive and focusing on yourself, when you are working it is working as a group for a common cause and you are serving one another.  Also when you are doing work such as washing the dishes it doesn't take a whole lot of thinking so you are more likely to talk with those around you.  Work such as growing a garden with your family can be beneficial because you are working together and it helps them to eat healthier, as well as saving money and everybody can contribute. 

When both parents work the money becomes his and her money instead of something you share, budgets should be made because it can help you to discuss with each other what you want most and to help to keep in check with each other.  The average couple has less income because of a second job, which a lot of couples don't realize.